If you could go back and give yourself some advice, before you married, what would you say? I’d give myself a t-shirt that would say, “Keep Calm, Fear Not, Serve Anyway.” Learning to manage yourself in conflict is vital to any marriage. Most of us slip into fight, flight, or freeze but keeping calm better allows us to put on the mind of Christ, even in a tough situation. Fear Not, Serve Anyway: When you’re fearful things aren’t going well, you tend to do things that make things worse and you stop serving because you’re looking out for yourself.