FamilyLife Blended® con Ron L. Deal
Avoiding Us vs. You
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Be careful. Don’t turn a stepfamily problem into “Us vs. You.”
Maria and her young adult children had many complaints about her husband. Clearly she needed to ask him to help find solutions, but I warned her not to use language like “you” and “we” or the gap between him and her kids would widen and she would be tempted to side with them. I said, “Emphasize you want to strengthen your marriage and you need his help to make things better for the family.” Don’t pit people against each other; lead with your desire for closeness so you tackle problems together.