Ghosts are scary.
“Ron, my ghost says my second husband will abandon me like my first one did; I won’t be enough for him; and he will always consider the mother of his children his first concern.” Ghosts make us fearful that we are second. But when do you start counting? This woman thought his first wife was his first love but maybe his first love was his first romance. How often are we the first? Perhaps what’s needed here is confidence, in yourself as a person of worth, and in your spouse’s commitment to you.