When it comes to conflict, are you an adult, or just a big baby? To worship the Lord David, in Psalm 131, prepares his heart by calming and quieting his soul. “Like a weaned child,” he says, “is my soul within me.” That’s the way to approach God and the right way to respond in conflict. A calm and quiet heart is humble and a weaned child can self-regulate when upset. Too many of us act like a big baby in conflict. We expect the other person to calm us down. That’s not going to work. Can you calm and quiet your soul? If not, it’s time to grow up.