“Ron, we dated for two years and everything seemed great with my kids. But the day we got married, out of no-where, they changed their tune.”
That’s a common story. They’re confused and wonder what they missed before the wedding. I point out that kids are confused, too. They really did like the idea of the family and are often drawn to the stepparent and the stepsibilings but it’s not real until it’s real. Kids can’t anticipate how sad they will be or how displaced they’ll feel when everyone moves into together after the wedding. It has to become real for all of that to come to the surface. That’s when adults need lots of patience.