FamilyLife Blended® con Ron L. Deal
Let Them Simmer, Part 1
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Want to speed up bonding in your stepfamily? Stop orchestrating togetherness and just let them simmer.
Parents in stepfamilies can be anxious about how quickly people are bonding. But wise parents learn to be patient. One stepdad figured this out the hard way. He said, “When my kids came over to visit, they would hug some of their stepsiblings and shake hands with others. Then her kids would migrate back to her and mine to me. At first we thought we had to group everyone together so they would like each other. But we learned to let them simmer and respected when and how they chose to blend.”