Are you blindly repeating the patterns of the past?
As I get older I’m more aware of the patterns in my family and how deep they are in me. We say we become more like our parents as we age but maybe we become more aware we’ve always been like our parents. By the way, your spouse and friends have tried to tell you that but you didn’t have ears to hear. Whether it’s a generational family pattern or a behavior you’ve carried from relationship to relationship, stop focusing on and blaming others. Look in the mirror and decide, keep it or change it.