Love languages are not set in stone.
In our book Building Love Together in Blended Families, Dr. Gary Chapman and I point out that your primary love language can shift. One stepparent noticed, “I thought I knew what their primary love language was, but it changed.” That is possible. Normal child and adolescent development can make a difference, but life stress and traumatic experiences can affect the primary love language. As people bond over time and trust develops, they can open more intimate places of their heart to one another.