Dave Harvey, author of "I Still Do," talks about the circles of influence that make up each one of us. In the center is the heart, which is the wellspring of our worship and motivations. Surrounding that is our embodied soul wrapped in flesh. Another circle is our social systems, like families, which influence who we are. Everyone has a context, and once a husband or wife understands what their spouse's context is, they'll love and understand each other better.